Do you struggle with self-doubt?
Are there days when you just don’t think you are good enough?
Maybe you want to hit snooze on your alarm clock and throw the covers over your head to avoid facing the day.
I’ve been there. We’ve all been there. But, how do you avoid letting it take over your life?
I know that some days can be super hard. And when you’ve reached a point of questioning yourself about everything and wondering if you’re good enough, serious self-doubt can sink in.
Whether this is because of a new job, or an important project due for school, self-doubt can easily take over and make you question yourself about everything! And it really sucks.
4 Ways To Deal With Self-Doubt
1. Speak up about your doubt
It’s so easy to build up assumptions in our heads. When something goes wrong at work, you might question yourself and rethink if you’re even cut out for that position.
Whenever something goes wrong, we beat ourselves up internally. Because we are supposed to be on top of things, and we are supposed to be perfect at everything. Right?
There is no such thing as perfection! So push that thought out of your head. Instead, turn to people who can help reassure you that you are doing just fine.
If you keep things to yourself, it can quickly build up in your head. Telling yourself you aren’t good enough and nobody really likes you anyways are thoughts that aren’t true. They are just things you make up in your head, because it feels true.
But, this is why you need to talk to someone about it. Ask them if you’re doing a bad job at your job. And I can promise they will say no, and reassure you that you’re a great part of the team.
We are so good about beating ourselves up and making sure that we don’t feel much pride in our work. Even if you are pretty close to perfect at your job.
That’s why it’s always good to get a second opinion, and a different perspective. Because other people see you differently than you see yourself. They value you and the right people want to be there make sure you don’t have any self-doubt.
2. Practice Affirmations Every Day
Go on Pinterest and type in “positive affirmations”. Find three that really resonate with you.
Then, make it a point to practice telling yourself these three things every day! Especially during the moments when you feel unsure about yourself.
Affirmations help you train your brain to think differently. Imagine if you told yourself “I am great at my job and people appreciate my hard work” and repeated that twenty times a day for a month. You’d probably start to believe it, wouldn’t you?
It sounds crazy, to tell yourself things that you don’t believe at first. Because it’s incredibly hard to believe in something like that. Because it’s positive.
We love to be negative and bring ourselves back to reality by talking ourselves down. But honestly, that sounds even crazier to me!
When you take time to repeat to yourself that you are good enough, especially during the moments where you really don’t think it, it helps force you into a different mindset.
The way I like to look at it, is you’re the one who criticizes yourself the most. But, by telling yourself that you are good enough during the moments when you feel like crap. You are becoming your own best friend.
You are the one telling yourself things that you’d love to believe. Best friends are always there to make you feel better, and positive affirmations work the same way.
The key is to practice the affirmations consistently, and during the moments when self-doubt is in high effect.
3. Stop comparing yourself to others!
It’s so easy to do. You see someone else at school who gets straight A’s and makes it look so easy. They must be born with a skill that automatically makes them smart. There’s no way to compete with that.
Well, you should stop competing at all. There is no point in comparing yourself to others, except to make yourself feel worse.
And the best way to avoid doing this is by looking at it with a different perspective. Instead of telling yourself false assumptions, work at becoming a better person.
Chances are, that person who gets straight A’s probably has to work really hard. They most likely study any free second they get, and there’s a chance they are struggling with self-doubt as well. If you think about how hard it is to maintain that, then imagine how hard it is if you fall short.
Put yourself in their shoes for a second. And try to tell yourself that they might be struggling too. It’s easy to assume other people have it better than you, but everyone is dealing with something.
Some people are really good at hiding it, but no one is perfect.
Once you believe this, it’ll be easier to stop comparing yourself. And it might make you appreciate what you do have and what you are capable of.
4. Separate yourself from the cause of your self-doubt
When I am at work for 40 hours a week, the cycle of self-doubt repeats itself every day. When you are constantly surrounded by the things that are causing doubt, then you need to take a break.
I know that sometimes it’s not possible, because we can’t just stop showing up to work or school.
But, you do have control once you get home and I’m sure you have at least an hour a day you could use to get away.
Spend some time doing something you really enjoy, that you know you are good at. Something that makes you feel really good. And forget about what’s causing your self-doubt.
We can get so wrapped up in feeling bad about ourselves. Even when we get home, going on social media can bring us back into the cycle. That’s where we start comparing ourselves to other people who seem to have their lives figured out.
This is when you need to shut your phone off and go on a hike. Or read a good book. Or hang out with people you really care about and ask them to not let you talk about the things that are bugging you.
It’s really important to take a break and not obsess over what’s causing us stress.
When you can learn how to separate yourself from the crap, it’s easier to get a new outlook.
What’re some tips you have to reduce self-doubt?