Do you ever feel like your brain is going to explode? Or do you feel like screaming or breaking a plate?
I am one of those extremely sensitive people. I have a strong sense of smell, I can feel people’s presence from three feet away. I have like a sixth sense sometimes because I am just so aware of everything around me.
This is a curse and a blessing.
Being aware means you are more sensitive to others around you. You care more and listen more because you can pick up on things.
It also means you are like a vampire. Remember Twilight? Or Vampire Diaries? When they have heightened sense of smells and could see in the middle of the night? That’s what it feels like.
Feeling this way means it’s easy to be overwhelmed. It’s easy for everything to just become too much.
It takes a lot for me to not turn into an anxious mess anytime I go outside. And going to the grocery store? That’s pretty much non-existent because I do grocery pick-up now. Because being around so many people makes me incredibly anxious.
Maybe I was a vampire in a different life.
So if you feel this way, what do you do?
How do you deal with the every day things that just become too overwhelming sometimes?
Coming from someone with experience, I can give my tips. But, I also still struggle with it every day. It’s like battling depression or living with diabetes. It’s something you have to fight every day.
And honestly, some days I don’t want to fight. Some days I am in a terrible mood and I let it take over.
This happens more often when life is one big challenge. When nothing is really going right and there’s a lot of shit going wrong.
This year I got a new puppy. And at the same time, my 13 year old dog started having issues. My Gramy passed away, I got massive hail damage on my car, and I had my first experience with bed bugs. My job turned into something where I had a few break downs in my car during lunch. Even a few days where I wanted to leave and never show up again.
When life hits, it hits hard. It sucks. And there are moments when it gets to be too much.
I used to be a pretty positive person. But, it turned into something that felt more like I was being too naive. And I came to some hard realizations with the rough parts of life. When things aren’t so great, and outside influences end up making your life miserable.
I’ve dealt with my own bouts of depression. This is usually when my environment isn’t ideal. It’s usually when there is something seriously wrong in my life that needs to change, and depression becomes a symptom.
1. Try to reduce everything that’s causing you stress for 30 minutes
What I’m thinking as I write this is when there’s too much stimulation going on. Imagine you come home from work and your roommate is blasting music and there are five random strangers in your living room laughing and chatting away. You can barely make it to your bedroom, and it all just starts to be too much.
The sounds, the smells, the lack of control. These can start to make it be pretty overwhelming pretty quickly.
Take a second and reflect on everything that is causing you stress in this moment. Because you have every right to be overwhelmed, humans aren’t naturally supposed to be able to react to so many things going on at once.
You need control, and you need it fast. But it needs to be a healthy form of control. So, put on some of your Nike’s and grab your headphones. Go take a walk.
Sometimes, a walk can cause me even more stress. Especially if you live on a busy street, or live in an area that is highly populated with people, or if it’s in the middle of rush hour.
So if this is the case, drive your car to a park nearby. I live across the street from a park that is surprisingly empty every time I walk over there. It’s super suprising considering this is Colorado and people are everywhere.
Try to find your secret spot where nobody else goes.
If all else fails, go to the library. Grab some headphones, a notebook, or your laptop. And just take a second to yourself.
Even if you have a million things on your to-do list, ignore them for thirty minutes.
One of the main causes of being overwhelmed is not having enough time to yourself. So make sure you focus on yourself and give yourself a minute!
2. Understand That You Are Good Enough
If you ever feel like you are constantly on the go and constantly chasing your to-do list, but you never feel like you accomplish anything, you need to give yourself a break!
I have so many days where my dogs are out of control, my auto-pay doesn’t auto-pay my internet bill and it gets shut off. It’s like a perfect example of Alexander’s No Good Very Bad Day.
And it’s so easy at this point to think that you can’t do anything right. And it’s awful.
This is what gets to me a lot. I feel like I’m constantly working hard to juggle all the balls in my hand, but then someone throws in a ball out of nowhere and it causes me to drop one of the balls. It’s this terrible cycle.
And it can make you feel like you aren’t ever good enough. Because life keeps throwing things at you and you get blindsided.
Just this last weekend I had a break down. And why on earth should someone be crying on a Saturday morning? That’s supposed to be the best day of the week. Saturday mornings are like Nutella. And if you can’t enjoy that, somethings wrong.
Just don’t be hard on yourself. Because it’s so easy to do, and we all do it.
But you need to know that you are good enough! And you are working your butt off to have the life you want.
Hustling means failing sometimes. It means working hard, but it also means things are going to fall through the cracks.
Because nobody is perfect, no matter how it seems. Everyone goes through tough times.
3. Get Some Perspective
It’s easy to get wrapped up in our lives. It’s why the days and weeks and months go by so quick. We are trying to be on top of shit and trying to do everything.
And it can seem like the end of the world when something goes wrong. I was watching 13 Reasons Why, and remembering how it felt to be in High School. When things were magnified and anything wrong seemed like things would never be good again.
But, now can you even remember what those moments were in High School?
The same thing goes for the moments happening now. Yes, they are important. To an extent.
But, nothing is more important than enjoying the time that you have right now. Because right now is your life. It’s the time you get on this earth to be and do what you want.
You shouldn’t be spending too much time not feeling good about it. If you are, it’s time for some perspective.
This might sound stupid, and it might be hard to get into this mindset. But, you have to do it! Because you need to understand why you are living your life. Why you are striving for your goals and why you do what you do every day.
Ask yourself these three questions and answer them. Take out a pen and paper and write them down! Be present right here for a moment and take ten minutes to think and be present.
- Who are your favorite people in your life?
- What are five things you are grateful for?
- If you could spend tomorrow doing exactly what you wanted (not what you had to do) what would it be?
4. Release That Stress
I’m sure if you’re feeling overwhelmed you have moments of anger or wanting to cry.
This is the fun part. This is when you let that stuff out. Let it allll out.
There are some ways to release stress, like throwing dishes against the wall or screaming out in the woods.
Those sound awesome, but you might not be able to do that.
So be creative, and find ways to let off steam. Run around the block as fast as you can. Find a Spotify playlist that’s all about kicking ass. And go crazy. You can punch a pillow in you apartment.
Blast some pop music and dance around. Sing your lungs out. Paramore is my go to when I want to feel empowered.
Just let yourself breathe for a little bit! Release whatever is building up. And crying is another way of doing this, because crying feels good sometimes. And sometimes, you need it!
5. Make Sure To Talk To Someone And Ask For Help
When I am overwhelmed, I feel completely alone. It’s easy to get depressed this way. And it’s a dangerous path to go down.
Make an effort to talk to someone, whether that’s family or your best friend or a counselor. Build up a strong support group. I think it’s good to have a few people you can go to, because relying on one person puts too much pressure on them.
Some people are good for different things. Your boyfriend might be good for distracting you and watching a movie with, while your best friend will be good to vent to and find new perspective with. A counselor is a good option if you need to vent about people in your life, and understand what type of person you are.
Having a support group is so important. The last thing you should feel is alone, especially if you’re overwhelmed. This is when you need to ask for help.
When things pile up and I am anxious at work because I can’t be home fixing issues, my boyfriend becomes a super hero. He’s there to take care of my dogs or solve issues that I couldn’t do by myself.
So if you are feeling overwhelmed, try to work on reducing the things that are causing you stress. Some things are out of our control, and that’s what I’m trying to learn myself.
Learning how to control what you can and let go of what you can’t is tough! If you can ask yourself ‘is this out of my control?’ and accept the answer, then you’re on the right path to making improvements.
Another tip is to take a piece a paper and draw a line down the middle. On the left side of the line, write ‘In My Control’ and the right side ‘Out Of My Control’ and write down the things on your to-do list.