“Always trust your gut. Your brain can be fooled and your heart is an idiot, but your gut doesn’t know how to lie.”
With how much information we are given these days, it’s so hard to make a decision… about anything! You can google the opinion of twenty different people on any given subject.
It’s easy to develop analysis paralysis when we are faced with so much information.
Just the other day, I was googling whether or not I should get my 6 month old Rottweiler neutered. The results were so conflicting. Some said he could develop cancer if he got neutered, and others- including my vet – said he’s fine to get neutered.
My brain just wants to explode sometimes, because I am in this confusing situation often. Every day, I am faced with what the hell should I be doing with my life?
And instead of making any decisions, I curl up in the fetal position until my boyfriend gets home and I ask him to take over.
Is that just me??
At the same time, it’s not just the internet that throws up it’s opinion all over us. It’s the people in our day to day lives, the ones who are close to us and the one who are acquaintances.
When so many people are telling us who to be, what to be, and what to do, then what the hell are we supposed to do?
I never want to offend people, and I am definitely a people pleaser. At the same time, there needs to be a line to draw and we all know we can’t please everyone… but accepting that is the challenge.
I am the kind of person who gets affected by other people’s attitudes easily, and it causes a lot of unnecessary stress.
It can be hard to pay attention to what’s going on inside your own head.
You might think you are pretty in tune with yourself, but struggle to hear that voice when there are five other external voices trying to squeeze their way in.
Here’s how you learn how to follow your gut and quiet other people’s opinions.
When You Listen To Yourself, You Trust Yourself More
As we grow up and hit our twenties it’s easy to want to ask our parents what to do next. It’s super easy to want to hold someone’s hand through the uncertain times.
But, the more that you take a step out into the unknown by yourself the more you will find yourself. So many people hide behind things whether that’s drugs, alcohol, or comfort food.
We are all so damn terrified of facing life head on. Once you learn to deal with these moments in your twenties (the scariest moments of your life!), you will reach this point where you just trust yourself.
You won’t need to rely on someone else’s advice to push through, you will just know that you can make it through.
The more that you follow your gut, and trudge through the crazy difficult moments, the more you will learn about yourself. The stronger you will become.
Keep In Mind That No One Knows Anything
What I have learned since listening to myself instead of others is that nobody has it all figured out. We all make our own mistakes, and I’ve noticed that people secretly have this mantra ‘Do as I say, not as I do’.
It’s easy to tell someone else how to live their life. If some people feel like they have been in your shoes before, they might think you will go through the same experiences as them.
And while some input is great, and very helpful at times, it’s a good idea to take everything with a grain of salt. Don’t be gullible to each bit of advice that you get.
Don’t Be Afraid To Make Your Own Mistakes
Making mistakes is just a part of life, and every single person makes them.
Some hate making mistakes and only make them once, or never if they can. Understand that you will make mistakes, it’s the part of the process.
When you listen to other people instead of yourself, it might be because you are too afraid to make a mistake. You are going down the road less traveled, which means you have to figure out what works and what doesn’t.
Think of life as a science experiment, and you sometimes have to put together a totally random recipe that may or may not turn into something great.
If you can get over the fear of making mistakes, it will be that much easier to push forward towards your goals. Fear is the biggest thing that holds people back in their lives
Clear Your Head
Sometimes listening to our gut over all of the voices of others is tough. We can feel trapped when our instinct is telling us one thing, but we also want to fit in and get along with other people.
The easiest way to make a bad decision is by making one just to please someone else, without giving it any thought.
If you’re sensitive to offending other people and their opinions, definitely get some distance. It’s ok to be quiet and contemplate your thoughts. The more distance you give the situation, the more control you have.
When you listen to how you are feeling in the process and your gut is rejecting what other people are saying, take it as a sign that you shouldn’t listen to them.
These are just a few ways you can learn to ignore the opinions of others.
Whether you are in a difficult position at work, or struggling to find your path in life, it’s important to always listen to your gut first. You may not always follow it, but it’s good to be aware what it is telling you.
You will develop more confidence the more you listen to yourself, because you will always have your back!
Do you struggle with following your gut? What are some ways you overcome it?