Life isn’t always easy. In fact, life is pretty hard most of the time. There are moments when things go smoothly, and life feels great.
But, there are also a lot of dark times and feelings of uncertainty. Sometimes, you might even have a string of bad events happening in your life.
Making it really hard to have hope or see the light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve been there.
I’ve dealt with deaths, break-ups, toxic jobs, shitty living situations, and frequent moments when I am so unsure of my purpose and my worth.
Life isn’t supposed to be a walk in the park.
It’s supposed to knock you on your ass sometimes and make you question everything.
That’s how you build up resilience, and how you get the strength to keep swimming.
Here Are Some Things to Remember When Life Gets Hard
1. There is a Light at the End of the Tunnel
You can’t see it when you’re stuck in a shitty situation.
When you feel hopeless and don’t know where to go next.
Stumbling around in the dark trying to find that light, day in and day out will get old.
But, you have to remember it’s there.
And remember why you have kept pushing this long.
Hopelessness is the most powerful feeling. And it can swallow you up.
But, just keep believing there is a light out there.
I know you believe it’s there, and you just have to keep believing and you will pull yourself out.
2. Every Challenge is a Learning Opportunity
This is hard to see in the moment.
When things are challenging, it just feels hard and you won’t want to see it as an opportunity for growth.
But, try to remember a time when you went through something really challenging and got out of it.
Remember how you felt when you were in the middle of it.
And now look at where you are, and how far you have come.
Every challenge thrown at you in your lifetime is an opportunity to learn and build strength.
It’s what morphs you into the person you’re supposed to become.
3. You Don’t Have to Have it all Figured Out
Sometimes life gets hard when you think you should have your life together by now.
When you’re not where you’re supposed to be, it’s easy to feel defeated.
The truth about life is: it’s messy. Things don’t go as planned, people change, we grow.
What you wanted last year might not be the same as what you want now.
And we live in a society where we should know what we want and be successful.
The pressures can break you, if you try too hard to follow a path that might not be the right one for you.
Stop trying to do things just for the sake of doing them.
Even as you get older, your life won’t always go as you planned.
If you can learn to let go of this belief, life won’t feel so hard.
4. Change is Just a Part of it
The only constant in life is change.
I wish it wasn’t true. If I could stay a kid forever, I definitely would.
Change is one of the hardest parts about life.
But, it’s something that will never stop.
Maybe trying to embrace it more would help cushion the blow.
You need to change in order to grow, and things around you do too.
Let go of trying to hold onto things that just aren’t the same anymore and try to move into the flow of change.
And remember “Life is 10% what happens to you, and 90% how you react to it.”
It’s all about you and your attitude towards your life.
5. Failure Isn’t a Bad Thing
First off, if you love something enough and keep working at it, you’ll never fail.
And, with everything else, you probably don’t care enough to have it in your life.
Relationships fail, jobs fail, and we sometimes give up on things.
You let go of things because you have to, and it can feel like a huge failure in the moment.
I’ve failed at a lot of things in life and all of them were because I just didn’t care enough about them to continue.
Instead, I focused on the things I did care about, and now my life is pretty much how I want it to be.
Letting go of things that you don’t enjoy anymore isn’t failing.
It’s just you are moving onto better things that your soul is searching for.
6. Anything Worth Having in Life Isn’t Easy
But, if you want it bad enough, you won’t mind putting up with all the bullshit.
I’ve spent hours on my blog not making a penny and have felt way more joy and fulfillment than any minute I spent at my old job.
You might be in a spot where you feel lost and have no idea what to do next.
That’s just because you haven’t found what you need yet. And it will come, at the right time.
When you do find something that fills your heart up, don’t let it go.
Even if it doesn’t make any logical sense.
The things you want out of life might be what others don’t approve of. Or they might be insanely far out of reach.
And it might feel impossible. But, you just have to eventually realize that you are the one who creates your reality.
Taking the road less traveled is messy and sometimes freaking hard.
But, it’s also a great way to learn more about yourself, listen to yourself more, and do things you wouldn’t ever imagine doing.
7. You Will Pull Through Anything
If you are willing to fight and push back, you will get through anything.
Life’s a bitch.
It hurts and it’s unfair and there are moments when you will absolutely want to give up on it all.
But, eventually time passes.
In the moment, it will feel unbearable and you’ll want to smack anyone in the face who says, “just give it time”.
Those moments will build up your durability, though.
And when you make it through one of the shittiest moments life throws at you, you’ll know you can get through anything.
You just have to keep pushing, even if that just means getting up every day and getting through the day.
8. It’s Ok to Not be Ok
You won’t always have the best mindset.
Most people don’t. We all go through tough crap.
And when you aren’t feeling alright, please give yourself a break.
Don’t try to just ignore it and beat yourself up over feeling bad.
Instead, listen to your body. Take things slow and practice self-care.
Let go of the thoughts that say “I should be happy. I should just be grateful.”
And embrace how you feel in the moment. If your mind is saying “I hate everything”.
Then it’s a good time to just stay home and watch a movie.
Don’t force yourself to be ok when you’re not feeling it.
9. You’re Not Alone
Feeling down, upset, or scared while others around you look happy can make you feel very alone.
But, you’re not the only one going through what you’re going through.
Everyone struggles. Sometimes people don’t like to talk about it because they don’t want to bring others down.
Or they don’t want others to worry.
But, you just have to remember that you are not alone.
Don’t be afraid to reach out to others because the closest people to you want to know what’s going on.
They are there for you. And it’s seriously ok to not be ok all the time.
It’s what makes you human!
10. One Last Thing to Remember
You will never reach a point in life where you don’t have problems.
Sometimes people strive to be successful and make a lot of money so they can get rid of all their problems.
But, life just doesn’t work that way.
You will have moments when everything is going great, and then you’ll hit a speed bump.
During these times, just remember it’s a part of life. It’s not a direct hit to you.
When we are constantly thrown curveballs in life, it can feel personal.
Like something’s wrong with you, and that you will always struggle.
If you continue to let each problem knock you down, it will break you down over time.
Instead, just remember that no matter your age, you will get hit with the unexpected sometimes.
What’s important is learning how to handle it when it happens.
Believing in yourself to push through it will help.
Think of everything you’ve gone through in life and believe you will get through everything else that will happen.
Don’t ever give up, because remember things do change. Life gets good, then it gets hard, then it gets good.
Learn to trust the process a little more, and life will be easier to handle.