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Do you find that you hold onto things longer than you should?
That one comment someone made about the way you look never fully disappeared from your head.
And when you feel highly stressed, those thoughts creep to the surface.
This is how stress begins to build on itself.
Holding onto things and letting them get to you will build resentment. And so much unnecessary stress.
Learning how to let things go can massively reduce the stress in your life.
It’s also not too difficult to do.
15 Ways to Let Go and Feel Less Stressed
1. Understand You Control Your Thoughts
The thoughts you have every single day are what form you into who you are.
When you listen to and believe every thought you have, you give power to them.
That’s how they can take control over you.
You can actually learn how to control the way you think, even though I know it sounds crazy.
It starts with being more aware of your thinking, and understanding where those thoughts comes from.
When you have a negative thought, replace it with a realistic positive one.
As you begin to listen to these thoughts and become more aware of them, you can start to regain control of them.
2. Hang Out With Friends
Spend time around the people you love the most.
Talk to them about the crap going on in your life.
Let all of it out, and then move on.
Sometimes, the best thing you need is listening ear.
One that doesn’t judge, and supports you no matter what.
Hanging out with friends will help you let go of the stressed out feelings you have.
3. Put Your Energy Into What You Want
Stop putting so much energy into the negativity and stress around you.
Instead, work on focusing that energy into the good things.
Think about the stuff you want out of life, and focus on those things.
Especially when you have rough moments.
Remember why you are putting yourself through these stressful times.
This way, you can redirect the negative energy and put it to good use.
4. Put Yourself First
Usually we feel stressed out because we’re pulled in a million different directions.
Feeling overwhelmed and burnt-out from trying to do it all.
As you’re feeling stressed, think about all of the commitments on your plate that you’re doing for someone else.
That could be going to a soccer game for your niece. Or going to get dog food for your pup.
Anything that requires doing something for something else.
Then, think about what you want and need.
Do that first. If you need a nap, go take one.
When you feel stressed, do something that slightly fills your cup.
It’s most likely running dry, so this is the best time to work on yourself before trying to help others.
5. Get Outside
Try to get out for a hike or walk if you can.
Take a break and focus on nature around you.
Listen to the birds chirping nearby, or pay attention to how warm the sun feels on your face.
If you’re reading this in winter, thinking about the cool breeze on your face.
Practice being one with nature for a second.
This will help you let go and feel much calmer.
6. Stop Taking Things Personally
The causes of stress range from not feeling good enough to overwhelming yourself with too much.
When you don’t feel good enough about yourself, you end up taking things too personally.
As if everything around you is intentionally directed towards you as a means to piss you off.
Try to focus on what you can control in those situations, and let go of the rest.
The world isn’t around to get you, I promise.
It feels like it sometimes, but if someone offends you, think deeper about it.
What offends you about it? Why are you taking it personally?
Try to validate how you’re feeling and get to the bottom of why.
Once you do that, you can begin to let go of those feelings.
7. Work on Forgiving the Past
The things that have happened in the past can still have a huge impact on your present mind.
It’s difficult to let go of the things that have hurt us in the past.
And when things hurt you in the present, old feelings of pain can resurface.
You can work on letting go of these things that have hurt you by forgiving them.
Try to understand that what happened happened. It’s a part of your life, but it doesn’t define who you are.
Use the regrets you feel about your past to focus on doing better in the future. Learn from those mistakes, and use them as a valuable learning resource.
Visualize yourself moving on from your old self, and forgiving that version of you. Practice this every day, until you have come to terms and forgiven the past.
8. Get Rid of the Things Causing You Pain
Sometimes we put up with pain for so long, we forget how badly is hurts us.
Are there things in your life that are more of a burden than anything?
From a bad job to a bad relationship, these things can make your life way worse than it needs to be.
If you know there is something in your life causing you pain, try to work on getting rid of it.
You deserve a great life, full of supportive people and full of love.
If you aren’t receiving these things, it’s time to move on.
I know it’s not easy. But, you have to think about yourself and what you deserve.
This way, you can begin to let go.
9. Be More With Less
Does it seem like once you achieve a goal, you’re constantly chasing after the next best thing?
A lot of the times, the stress in our lives comes from our own expectations.
We are trying so hard to get that Perfect Pinterest Life.
Which means trying to work longer hours to make more money, and give up valuable time.
Look around your life and pay attention to the things you already have.
What will be enough for you? Is that getting a new car?
Or is it something you can have, right now? Something that doesn’t involve a lot of money or “things”?
When you can learn to have more with less, you appreciate the true value of the things around you.
Chasing after materialistic things can leave you feeling stressed out and empty. Because that feeling never goes away.
But, if you can stop that cycle and focus on being grateful for what you do have, you can learn to let go of all the other things that don’t really matter.
Clearing up the space around you will clear up your mind. This will help you learn how to let things go.
When you’re life is overwhelming and full of too much stuff, you won’t have the right mindset to remove stress.
You can start doing this by cleaning out your home, and getting rid of the stuff you just don’t use anymore.
Then, focus on other parts of your life. Like relationships that are toxic.
Or eating better.
De-cluttering is great for your mind, and helps bring you back down to a simpler state of thinking.
11. Try Out Gardening
Gardening is a very peaceful and enjoyable thing to do. It allows you to be out in nature, care for plants, and focus your whole attention on one thing.
If you are stressed out, consider getting a small garden container.
Fill it up with your favorite plants, and then spend time each day taking care of it.
This can provide a sense of zen in your life.
And if you can focus on it for 15 minutes a day, you can work on letting go of all the other stress in your life.
12. Write Down Your Achievements
Stop being so hard on yourself, and focus on what you’ve already achieved so far.
When you’re stressed and aren’t sure what the point is in anything, think about how far you have come.
Write down all of the things that you once really wanted, and now have.
That could be a certain toy as a child. Or getting into the college you wanted. Or running a marathon.
Think about the things you set your mind to and got.
This will help you let go and focus on the good things you’ve done in your life.
13. Make Someone Else Feel Good
Does a close friend need some support? What about someone less fortunate than you?
Helping others will make you feel good, and feel more connected to the world around you.
We are all often wrapped up in our own thoughts and worries, we forget there are others out there who are struggling way more than us.
This can help you see things in a different way, and realize that you already have a really good life.
Give out some love, and see how you feel!
14. Spend Time Around Animals
Animals are known to help reduce anxiety and stress.
When you become too wrapped up in the stress, go hang out with some animals.
Or even consider adopting a pet from a rescue if you are in the right spot to do that.
Being around animals can give you a sense of calm, and help you see the amazing things the world has to offer.
You could also volunteer at your local animal shelter!
15. Go Get a Massage
A great way to relieve stress without doing anything is by getting a massage.
On a day where you feel way too stressed, try out a massage.
They feel amazing, and releasing all of the toxins in your body will help clear your mind.
Once your muscles are all relaxed, you’ll feel more relaxed.
And it will make you wonder if what you’re so stressed about is worth it.
What are some ways you like to let go and get rid of stress?
Leave them in the comments below!
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