Learn the 19 Ways to Feel Better About Yourself!
We all have bad mental health days at times.
What makes those days worse is how hard we are on ourselves. For not feeling our best.
Thereâs a strong mental health stigma out there that tells us we should be doing better than we are. And if you struggle with depression or anxiety, it makes you feel like a failure of some sorts.
But this is NOT true. Trust me, itâs not. And the truth is many many people struggle with their own mental illness.
Itâs not a bad thing and you donât have to keep making yourself feel worse. Which is why I want to talk about some awesome ways you can feel better about yourself.
Because YOU are awesome! If you need a reminder of that today, then here it is.
Youâre doing the best you can. Youâre trying and thatâs all that matters. The progress you want to see in your life will come.
You will have days where you fall backwards, and thatâs ok. Because you will also have days where you feel on top of the world.
Unfortunately, I donât think itâs possible to always feel happy no matter how perfect your life may be. And striving for endless happiness is like striving for perfectionâ¦ it doesnât exist.
What does exist is learning how to accept who you are. Whether youâre in a bad mood or good mood. Trusting yourself and knowing youâll push through the tough moments will turn you into a resilient badass.
1. Pay attention to what your thoughts are saying
Instead of ignoring your thoughts, spend some time listening to them. What are they saying to you?
If you arenât feeling your greatest right now, why? Is it because of something not going how you expected in your life?
Identify your struggles and respect them. This can help you learn to listen to yourself more.
When you ignore yourself itâs easy to feel down because you havenât fully accepted what your thoughts are trying to tell you.
2. Listen to yourself and make sure to take it easy
If you donât want to see anyone today, clean your house, or get groceries then donât! Donât force yourself to do something you hate.
You might think âbut Iâm an adult and need to take care of my responsibilities.â which, yes this is true.
But, your chores can wait until youâre feeling better. Cut your to-do list in half and just work on the things that you can.
Let the other things wait and listen to yourself. Today might just need to be a Netflix day.
3. Stop making yourself feel guilty for not feeling good mentally
When youâre depressed itâs really hard to act like you care about something when you really donât.
Like when your boyfriend wants to spend Saturday doing a bunch of errands and youâre over here like: I need to be in bed with no interruptions.
Which can make you feel guilty for not supporting the people you love. Your mind has other plans for you and you have to cater to that.
You donât have to feel guilty for giving yourself a much needed mental health day. If itâs an every day thing, then itâs always good to talk to someone about it.
Related post: Why Should I feel Guilty for Having a Mental Illness?
4. Write out all your worries in a journal
When you wake up in the morning and already feel like today is just going to suck, get your thoughts out.
Write down all of your worries about your life, about the day and just about anything.
This is a great way to reel in your worries and take care of your mental health. Because once you get these thoughts you, youâll feel better and ready to take on the day.
Try out the Tiny Buddha’s Worry Journal to help you let go of worry and anxiety:
5. Buy yourself something nice
When youâre not feeling good about yourself, go out and buy something nice. Take a trip to the mall or buy something on Amazon youâve been wanting.
Treat yo self! This is a good form of self-care to remind yourself that you matter.
Now, you donât need to buy the whole store or anything but something simple that makes you feel good will do the trick.
This could also just be some ice cream from Cold Stone to help boost your spirits.
6. Eat a healthy & fulfilling meal
You can treat yourself and eat a healthy meal all in the same day. Itâs called balance!
Fuel your body with the proper nutrients that you need to improve your mental health.
A healthy meal makes your body feel better which improves your mindset!
7. Trust yourself more
Listen to your heart.
If youâre unhappy a lot of the time, listen to why that is. If you always say yes when you should say no, learn how to set boundaries.
For the longest time I did not trust myself and I always looked to other people to boost my confidence. But, this never lasted because when nobody was around I didnât feel good about myself.
I spent a lot of time learning how to trust my instincts and listen to myself more, and now I feel so much better about myself. This takes some time, but if you make it a goal of yours then you will start to improve quickly.
8. Spend time with supportive people
It helps to have a strong support system because you canât always pull yourself out of funk.
If you arenât feeling your best today, call up your closest friends. Vent to them or ask them to hang out so you can be around positive people.
Donât be afraid to reach out to the people who care about you when youâre struggling mentally, because they need you to reach out to them. They wonât judge you and care about your wellbeing.
9. Listen to upbeat music
Sometimes you just need some good music to pull you out of a bad mood. Dance around to your favorite songs for 15 minutes.
Tune everything out and put your headphones on.
Enjoying yourself where you get out of your head for a while can help you gain a different perspective on things.
10. Write down all of your amazing qualities
Even when youâre not feeling your best you can counter your bad thoughts with good ones.
Write down your favorite qualities about yourself. Is it the way you easily forgive people around you? Maybe youâre a really good listener, or like being so easy going.
Whatever traits you have, write them down. And if you canât think of what you like about yourself, write down the things other people like about you.
11. Hang out with fluffy animals
If you have any animals at your house, spend some time with them. Cuddle your cat or go on a hike with your dog.
And if you donât (but do like animals), go to a nearby animal shelter. If you find an animal you like, you can ask to hang out with it. And who knows? Maybe youâll even end up getting a furry companion!
Animals can be a great form of therapy because they are so innocent and pure. They are very forgiving, provide an endless amount of love, and have zero judgement. Something we all need when we arenât feeling our best.
12. Cry it out
Crying is a way to release all the built up emotions you have in your mind and body.
Sometimes you just need a good cry session to let everything out. I definitely feel better after I cry things out for a little bit.
If itâs just one of those days for you where you do feel on the verge of tears, donât hold it in. Allow yourself to feel however it is youâre feeling so you can get back to being your best self.
13. Break/Punch something
So if youâre sad you cry, and if youâre angry you can punch something. I keep getting this urge to break some dishes when I donât feel my best.
But if youâd prefer to punch something instead, sign up for a nearby kickboxing class. This can help you relieve a lot of tension…
14. Get some alone time
If you arenât feeling your best sometimes being alone can be just what you need. This helps you re-center yourself.
You also block out all of the outside noise. If you have a judgmental family, difficult work environment, or just feel super stressed out then being alone can help a ton.
Either go to your bedroom and shut the door for the night, go on a hike and shut off your phone, or take a 2 hour long bath for some privacy.
15. Go on an adventure
Sometimes we donât feel our best because life feels boring. If youâre stuck in the same routine and feel like your life isnât going anywhere, change it up by going on an adventure.
This could mean a trip to the next town over, or a road-trip vacation.
Depending on how youâre feeling, set up a plan to get out on an adventure and explore something new.
16. Take a mental health day
If you wake up in the morning and just cannot get yourself to go to work, take a mental health day. We all need this from time to time.
And donât feel guilty about it either!
A mental health day is amazing for when youâre overwhelmed and burnt-out. If you know you wonât be able to focus or work productively today, then itâs best to take a break from everything.
This can help in so many ways and it can actually benefit your employer because youâll feel refreshed and recharged after a little mini break.
17. Get some exercise
Go on a run, take a hike or do some yoga at home.
Your body and mind work together to help you feel your best. Make sure to take care of your body and listen to what it needs.
Activities like running or HIIT gets your endorphins going and your heart pumping, so youâll feel better pretty quickly.
And if youâre looking to calm down and be more in-tune with your body, then yoga, pilates, or a peaceful walk can help you get there.
18. Read a good mental health book
If you enjoy reading like I do and like to focus on self-improvement, here are some of my favorite books to read to help you feel better about yourself:
Unfu*k Yourself: Get Out of Your Head and into Your Life
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life
How to Be Happy (Or at Least Less Sad): A Creative Workbook
The Anxiety, Worry & Depression Workbook: 65 Exercises, Worksheets & Tips to Improve Mood and Feel Better
Rising Strong: How the Ability to Reset Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
19. Help someone else
Sometimes what you really need to feel better is to help someone else. Look around your life and see what areas you can help in.
Are there people in your family who are going through their own struggles? Do you have a friend who could use a break from her kids?
Pay attention to other people around you asking for help and lend out a hand. This can bring you closer to the people around you while making you feel really good for helping people out.