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Pushing yourself out of the depths of anxiety can literally feel like you’re trying to climb out of a muddy ditch.
Right when you think you’ve grabbed onto solid ground, it gives out and you’re left down at the bottom again.
That’s what happens when you think you know how to manage your own anxiety, but you really don’t.
Anytime you think you figure it out, you just get knocked down again.
Some days might feel fine, but the days where you feel super anxious are the ones that feel unbearable.
I get it.
For the longest time, I struggled with this cycle myself.
I tried doing things to get rid of my anxiety. Like finding healthy distractions or looking for the latest product to help with it.
But, my anxious thoughts always came back.
And when they did, I felt more and more helpless.
I couldn’t figure out what the answer was.
Until I actually put in the effort to work on my mindset.
There are a few other things that helped my anxiety, like medication and therapy.
But, changing my mindset was just another piece to the puzzle.
With all 3 of these things, I was finally able to pull myself out of that muddy hole.
Today, I want to share some of my tips on how to improve your mindset and reduce anxiety.
Challenge Your Negative Thoughts and Replace Them With Positive Ones
When your brain starts going crazy with thoughts, and you begin to feel symptoms of anxiety, take a step back.
Think about what is causing you to feel anxious in that very moment.
Saying “I feel anxious” isn’t enough to understand what’s actually going on.
Maybe your boss called and left a voicemail. Now you’re brain is coming up with 20 different things you think you’re boss wants to talk to you about.
And they’re all negative things.
If you’re natural reaction is to instantly go to negative thoughts, you’ll have to work on replacing them with positive ones.
This is how you can become neutral in your thinking.
You even out the bad thoughts with the good ones.
And this is a quick way to start to calm yourself down.
If it helps, grab a piece of paper and write down all of the negative thoughts you’re having about a situation.
Draw a line down the middle, then think of positive thoughts that counteract the bad ones.
If you think “My boss probably called because he wants to fire me”, write down “My boss probably called to remind me about the meeting on Monday.”
The positive thoughts can also have some truth to them.
Because your negative thinking is all made up in your head, with no true facts to back them up.
Think About What Makes You Happy
You know what sucks about anxiety? Is that most of the time, depression tags along with it.
So, seeing the good in things becomes very difficult.
Even the things you normally love don’t seem as important when you feel depressed.
Our anxious and depressed thoughts feed off of each other.
When you are feeling this way, you have to pull yourself out of it.
Even if you hate every second of it.
Think about the things that usually make you happy.
Like your dog or going to the park or watching a movie.
Do those things. But, don’t focus on the fact that they might not bring you the happiness you’re expecting.
These things will help you, and what’s most important is to keep doing those things, no matter how you feel.
Take care of your soul during these times. Don’t give up on the things that connect with your heart.
Eventually your mind will catch up and remind you that you really do enjoy all of those things.
And they will start to make you feel happy again.
I am the queen of complaining.
It’s something I’ve had to work on for a while now. It’s hard.
Complaining is such an easy thing to do. It gives me something to talk about when I can’t think of anything else.
Try to be more conscious of the times when you hear yourself complaining about something happening in your life.
Complaining is giving complete power to the negative things that occur in your life.
You can even try out a no complaining challenge and see if it helps improve your mindset.
I personally hate it when people say “smile more”.
When I’m in a shitty mood, the last thing I want to do is smile for no reason.
But, I have found that laughing at something instantly boosts my mood.
Look into funny Youtube videos, or watch a funny TV show that you know always makes you laugh.
Laughing stops you from taking everything so damn seriously.
It breaks down the negative thoughts and allows you to feel good no matter what moment.
Smiling is a challenge for me. But, laughing at something that truly gets what I’m all about makes me feel not so alone in the world.
Find the Right People to Hang Out With
I say this often, negativity breeds negativity.
If you’re group of friends all sit around and talk crap about one another, they aren’t the best people to be around.
We are the average of the top 5 people we hang out with most.
Think about who you are around most often, including co-workers.
Then evaluate who you might need to reduce seeing to improve your mindset.
There isn’t really a point to be around someone who is constantly bringing you and everyone else down.
The ones who just can never see the good in anything.
Sometimes, venting about issues is ok. Like if you just need to talk to your best friend about a situation that happened that made you feel like crap.
You need that. To let it all out.
When it’s gets bad is when it’s the majority of what you and the other people talk about.
Focus on the good things in life.
Do the stuff you love doing, with the people you love being around!
Don’t waste your time around people who just like to suck the life out of everything.
Stop Being so Hard on Yourself
Anxiety ruins self-confidence.
When you don’t think you’re capable of having a good life and overcoming these tough mental roadblocks, it’s impossible to keep a positive outlook on things.
If things don’t go exactly as you planned, who cares? It is not a reflection on who you are as a person.
Stop holding yourself to such high standards.
Trying to be perfect and always do the “right” thing will leave you feeling burnt-out and hyper aware of everything.
It’s no way to live your life.
When it comes to improving yourself and your mindset, you have to learn how to forgive yourself.
Always be on your side, no matter what.
If you aren’t there right now, work on it. Make that your #1 priority.
We often beat ourselves up over things that are out of our control.
It’s not fair to you, and it ruins how you see yourself.
You can live a great life feeling as though you deserve it.
Relieved of the pressure to be a certain way or to do a certain thing.
So just let go. Go easy on yourself, and go after the things you want in life.
It’s the best way to have a fulfilling life, and a healthy mindset.
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